So many changes in the past 6 months!

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WOW it’s been a long time since I posted! Last time I made a post, I was in college and I was engaged. So guess what? (Like you have to, ha!) I’ve graduated with a Bachelor of Science in Psychology and have been married for almost 4 months! :) The wedding was small and intimate, and it was beautiful. We had it at my husband’s uncle’s house. It was so sweet of them to do that for us.

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It’s been a great few months so far. My husband and I both are currently looking for our post-grad jobs. I’ve been taking a breather, you know to relax before I jump into the workforce. I didn’t want to go straight from hectic, stressful, study-filled days right into working, you know? I needed a break to breathe, enjoy the first few months of being married, and be with the family. But now I’m ready to get a job that I love with the degree that I love.

While I’ve been spending time with the family (specifically, my new brother Seba and sister Sofi), we decided to make a series on YouTube (easiest avenue right now). It’s called Haunting on Settlers Way.

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We started working on it in September and have shot enough episodes to make a trailer, which is up on our channel as of last night! The first episode will be up tomorrow. I’ll start uploading it around midnight tonight, since it’ll take a while. Sofi and Seba’s friends have been asking them non-stop when it’ll be up, so they’re all excited. And so are we!

New beginnings await this summer!

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The semester officially ended this week and I am so happy! I finally get to rest for the next few weeks until I take my last class next month. And then…graduation! I can apply for graduation on Monday! :) I didn’t make the graded I’d hoped for in Finance, but I still did well and learned a lot, so I’m happy about that. I made A’s in everything else, though :) It’s so crazy to me that I have one more class and just 3 more months until I’m a college graduate. But that’s not all the good news I have…

I’m engaged! My fiancé (love saying that!) talked to my dad yesterday about getting his blessing to marry me, and my dad was so happy and quick to say yes. Then he asked me to marry him a few hours after :) So we’re getting a graduation and a wedding all in one summer! We’re so excited and happy to be starting our lives together soon. It still feels surreal…the reality of it hasn’t kicked in yet. We’re definitely already overwhelmed, though. It’ll be a busy and hectic, but fun, next few months :)

So yes that’s my update for right now, and my news :) I’ll post again soon!

Internship!

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It’s so hard to believe that this semester (MY LAST FULL TERM SEMESTER OF COLLEGE) is almost over. Just one more class in the summer and then I am done!! I never thought I would get there when I started college, yet here I am 4 years later and just a few weeks away from applying for graduation. It feels so surreal. I’m definitely ready to finish college and graduate, but I’m also scared. School is all I’ve known since I was 5 years old. I’ve been in school almost everyday for the past 17 years and that’s all about to change soon. I’m going to be in a different world than what I know and am comfortable with. Graduating and working in my field is going to require me to get out of my comfort zone, which I’ve never been good at…or comfortable with, obviously. But I need to. I don’t have a choice.

Fortunately, I’ve already started that. For the past year, I’ve been looking like crazy for any internships or jobs I can do in my field until I graduate, so that I’ll have at least some experience when I apply for post-graduation jobs. Even if it’s just a few months’ worth. After much searching, I finally found one!

I applied a couple weeks ago for an internship at 7 Cups of Tea, an organization that gives people emotional support when they’re going through hard times. It’s similar to a hotline, but not that extreme. I love it so far – and I’ve received all positive reviews from the people I’ve talked to, which is a really good feeling. Even though it can be tiring, depending on the conversations and how many hours you do this everyday, it’s really rewarding. I definitely picked the right major and the right internship. I’m proud of myself :)

I’m still doing well in my classes. My grades dropped a little bit due to the stress and the course load, but I brought them back up and could not be more relieved. Finance is a hard class! I originally thought about majoring in business, and boy am I glad I didn’t now. It’s difficult for me and it’s not my thing. What I do love about it, though, is how much I’m learning about personal money management (it covers everything you can think of in personal finances) before I move out on my own. It’s made me feel so much more calm and relaxed about how to handle money on my own and how things like credit, mortgages, premiums, etc. all work.

But the rest of my classes are going really well. Still loving Criminology. I’ll admit, though, it’s made me a tiny bit paranoid about my surroundings whenever I leave the house haha…not gonna lie – though it’s had same effect on others I know who took the class, so that makes me feel better :P

Photography is still super fun and I’ve learned so much in Photoshop. I have to make movie posters for my next assignment, which is fun to work on. I’ll have to post them when I’m done :) Here are the Photoshop pictures I’ve done so far that I like (you can make them bigger if you click on them):

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For Capstone (I love saying that!), I’m writing a 7-10 page research paper. The topic is sad, so I won’t bring that up, but it’s really interesting. Lastly, Adolescent Psychology is still, by far, one of the most interesting classes I’ve ever taken. So yes, I’m still loving this semester (except for finance) :)

Almost there!!

Kids react to…Walkman’s!

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I don’t know how many of you watch YouTube regularly, or how many of you are subscribed to TheFineBros, but they make react videos featuring elders, teens, kids, and YouTubers. Their latest “Kids React” video is of kids reacting to…Walkman’s! Their reactions and faces were priceless when they saw Walkman’s. Only one knew exactly what it is and how it works (and she was the youngest one!). The video is hilarious and cute, as always, yet some people took it way too seriously.

Most of the comments I saw – whether they were on YouTube, on articles posted about the video, or on Facebook – were negative. I’d say 95% of them. People were enraged! The comments were filled with people calling these children “spoiled brats” – that was the most common one I saw, in almost every comment it seems. What I don’t understand is how them not knowing what a Walkman is makes them spoiled brats.

These kids’ ages range from 6-13 years old. None of them were born before the year 2000. So why would they know what a Walkman is or how to use it? How many of us know exactly what all our parents and grandparents grew up with, much less how to use them? Every generation is different and has new technology that didn’t exist for the previous ones. That doesn’t make each new generation spoiled. It just makes them different and more technologically advanced.

While I may not have agreed with everything the kids said (like feeling bad for people from the ‘90s), I don’t think they’re “spoiled brats.” They’re just children from a completely different decade and generation than that of the Walkman. Heck, I’m a ‘90s kid and I didn’t even have a Walkman! I’ve never used one – though I know how it works, not that hard to figure it out.

So what do you think? Are they “spoiled brats”, or just children from a different decade and generation (just like we are in comparison to our parents and grandparents)? Take a look at the video below and decide for yourself:

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In my 20s and already uncool??

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So I’ve read a couple articles the last couple days about teens’ various responses to Reddit’s question “what’s cool nowadays?” and I was surprised by some (okay a lot) of the answers.

Some of the answers I can still relate to, such as “roaming your local area/city centre with your friends without a real agenda.” I still like doing that with my boyfriend ‘cause it’s fun and we’re both pretty indecisive (we actually call ourselves the “most indecisive couple”), so it’s easier to just roam around and enjoy each other’s company. I relate to “Vine and Instagram,” both of which I LOVE – and many adults love them too. I also relate to “being smart,” as that has always been important to me, more so than being popular ever was. Finally, I relate to the “no makeup selfies” since I’m not a big makeup person and the “having a car” since, well, I need that and it’d be weird to me not to have a car in my 20s. Okay so having a car isn’t based on coolness in the 20s, but on necessity. So maybe that one doesn’t count.

However…many of their answers either blew me away, made me cringe, made my jaw drop, or straight up made me mad/feel sick…or all of the above. Okay so the first one that really weirded me out was “Snapchat,” which was described as “the silly toy for teens to send naked pictures to each other.” Let that sink in for a moment. Now I’ve never used Snapchat, and I had barely even heard of it ‘til now, but first of all, how is Snapchat still legally in service if that’s true? For teens to be doing that is completely illegal. I’m hoping it’s not true.

The next one made no sense to me: “hating things that are cool.” If they hate things that are cool, and that’s considered to be cool…how is that logical? Teen’s logic, I guess. Another thing that teens find cool now is “hating on Facebook.” Well, when I was a teenager, Facebook was all the rage and it was still new. I guess that fits in with the previous “hating things that are cool.” Does that mean Facebook is still cool? ‘Cause I’m still obsessed with it.

This next one was rather upsetting: “getting drunk to the point of getting sick.” One question: why? Why would teens believe that it’s cool to get so drunk that you get sick? Getting sick from alcohol is cool? Getting alcohol poisoning is cool? I’d hate to be cool then. The other one that made me cringe was the “E-cigarettes”/”vaping.” So for teens who don’t want to actually smoke a real cigarette but maybe want to look cool by pretending to smoke? Good lord, more teen logic at its finest.

I’m so glad I’m not a teen. And while I don’t agree with half of that “What’s cool nowadays?” list, I’m kind of sad that I’m no longer cool – not that I ever was, really. But I’m not “with it” anymore. I’m not in tune with the current youth generation. I’m already entering that non-cool, adult stage of life…and I’m only in my 20s. I know, I know, every teenage generation will have its own ideas of what’s cool and what’s not, so it’s nothing to really be sad about – and they’ll be in my position in a few years anyway.

But hey, maybe it’s a good thing. Maybe it’s a sign that I’m not a kid anymore and am not interested in kiddy/teen things as much as I was when I actually was a teenager. The only interest I have is purely nostalgic now, and that’s okay. Once I marry and have children of my own, they’ll turn into teens one day and have a completely new set of cool and uncool trends – most of which I will probably never understand. And that’s just fine with me.

That’s what makes every generation different and interesting, right? If everything stayed the same with each generation, I think it’d get boring really fast. Some tradition is good, but people need to change and grow so that things can improve and new ideas can form.

Dance Compilation Guaranteed to Make You Smile

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This video just made my day! Yesterday, March 21, was World Down Syndrome Day. In honor of that, some people got together and made a dancing compilation of people with Down Syndrome, ranging from babies to adults. It was the cutest, sweetest thing I’ve ever seen.

I really want to work with people with Down Syndrome more than anything once I finish my degree and get into case management. They seem like they’d be such a joy to be around and to get to know. They’re always smiling, they’re so sweet, and they’re so cute. This video just made me love them even more.

So take a few minutes and watch the video linked below! It’s guaranteed to make you smile :)

HAPPY World Down Syndrome Day

Thoughts on the last days of Fred Phelps

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Warning: This post may contain some language offensive to gays, lesbians, and others, but is only used in an informative manner – not as a personal insult from me, as I would never use that language myself. This post is about Fred Phelps, leader of the infamous Westboro Baptist Church. If you are familiar with him and his church, then you know what I’m talking about. 

As many have heard, Fred Phelps, the leader and founder of Westboro Baptist Church, is on his deathbed awaiting his last breath. Many people are currently rejoicing and happy that he will finally be gone and will no longer be able to spread hate towards those who are not part of his church. But I’m not one of them. Now, I’ve said before that I absolutely abhor his church and his teachings and that the Phelps family is the most hateful family I’ve ever seen in my life. But I don’t feel right being “happy” that he’s dying. Let me explain why.

Does Fred deserve to be loved? Personally, I don’t think so. Does he deserve forgiveness? No. Does he deserve a second chance? No. Does he deserve to not have a funeral held by his family? Maybe. But if I hate him the way he has hated me and everyone else in this country (and on this planet), then how would that make me any better than him? Why would I want to stoop down to his level?

Fred Phelps has raised a family to hate any and everyone who isn’t just like them. He’s raised his children, and they’ve raised their children, to hate gay people. They have little children already calling gays “fags.” The official URL for their church website is godhatesfags.com. They picket the funerals of gays. They picket the funerals of veterans. They tried to picket the funerals of the Sandy Hood children for crying out loud. They constantly threaten to picket the funerals of people who aren’t just like them.

They carry signs saying that God hates America, that God hates gays, that God is the enemy (of anyone not in their church, I’m assuming), that America deserves everything it’s getting, etc. Their signs say thank God for cancer, thank God for 9/11 (yes, I’m serious), thank God for dead babies, etc. They think that anyone who loses their child deserves it they were obviously committing some sort of sin that they deserved to be punished for.

In fact, take a look at some of their protest signs for yourself (which may be disturbing to some to read):

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Have an idea now? If not, look them up for yourself and see. Watch their many documentaries: Fall From Grace (which is on Netflix), The Most Hated Family in America, America’s Most Hated Family in Crisis, etc. Simply look up “Westboro Baptist Church” in Google Images, and you’ll those very pictures from above plus hundreds of others.

I’ve read comments from people saying that they want to picket Fred’s funeral, but what good would that do? None – which leads me back to what I saying earlier. I’m not stooping down to his level by hating him. I have a few reasons for this. For one, that would be giving him exactly what he wants. They like to get reactions out of people. They know that the things that they do and say will be made public and covered by the media, and that everyone will grow to hate them even more. I’ve heard them say in interviews that if people hate them, then they’re doing their job right. They know that “Christians” will be persecuted and hated, and they expect that. From what I’ve heard them say, it makes them feel proud. I’m not going to give them what they want.

Second, I do my best not to hate anyone, no matter how much they may deserve it, because that’s not what a Christian should do. Over the last few years, the Phelps family and the Westboro Baptist Church have gotten so crazy and out of hand with their bullying, preaching, picketing, and so on, that they’ve made me ashamed and embarrassed to call myself a Christian – because I don’t want to be associated with them and that type of behavior. They make us Christians look so incredibly bad and hateful.

I know Christians haven’t exactly had the best rep, but WBC makes it so much worse. It’s people like that who make Christians look bad. Most of us aren’t like that. But the few who decide to be hateful towards others are the ones who represent us, but they get the most attention – the bad usually outweighs in the good when it comes to media coverage and stories. People remember the bad more than they remember the good, unfortunately. But I will not be like them. I will be how a Christian should be: loving. We’re supposed to love and accept others, not hate them or exclude them for being different.

That leads me into my third reason. Many of us have heard the saying that those who deserve love the least are the ones who need it the most. It’s so easy for us to jump to hating someone who has done us wrong. It’s so easy to get mad and tell them off and give them what they deserve. It’s hard to love them and forgive them, to show them compassion. But that’s the right thing to do. So I’m not going to give Fred Phelps what he deserves – I think he’ll get that on his own. I’m going to give him what he doesn’t deserve: love. It’s taking every ounce of strength I have not to hate him after all the hate he’s spread over the last 6 decades – yes, he founded that church almost 60 years ago. It’s taking every ounce of strength I have not to rejoice that he won’t be around to hate anymore. It’s taking every ounce of strength I have to love him and to forgive him.

I’ve never been a vengeful person. Okay that’s not true. Sometimes I can be, if I get angry enough. But I’m not the type of person to actually carry that vengeance out – it’s more mental for me. The way I see it, it really does take more effort to hate someone than it does to love him/her. Think about it. When you’re constantly around someone who’s negative and pessimistic, it drains you. It’s exhausting. Pessimism, negativity, hate, even depression – they’re all exhausting. But how do you feel when you’re around someone who’s loving and happy? (Not an overly happy person, as that can be exhausting too, but a generally happy person.) How do you feel when you’re around someone whom you love and who makes you feel good? You feel happy. You feel energetic and upbeat. It’s the same thing when it comes to hating someone versus loving someone. It takes more effort and energy to hate them than it does to love them.

So that’s what I’m going to do. I’m not going waste my time and energy hating someone who wants to be hated. I’m not going to give Fred Phelps what he deserves. I’m going to give him what he doesn’t deserve. I’m going to love him. I’m going to forgive him. I’m going to pray for him and show compassion, because he has clearly been misled by someone at some point in his life, to the point where he misled an entire family about what it means to be a Christian.

I spent a long time, years in fact, trying to figure out what I should do about the anger that they have caused me and the pain that they have caused so many people in this country. When I found out that Fred is on his deathbed, that’s when I knew. I need to love him and forgive him, and just hope and pray that he opens his eyes and realizes that he’s been awful to people, and that he comes to terms with that and apologizes for his actions and his hateful words.

I don’t know if that will happen or not. But I hope it does.

Crazy new year so far

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This semester has been a little hectic so far. I know I’ve been a bit MIA, as some of my classes have hectic schedules and are a bit difficult. My finance class is very hard, much more than I expected it to be.  I have the first exam coming up this weekend, so I’m trying really hard to understand the material and the equations.

My Capstone class is fun and exciting. I can’t believe I’m already on the Capstone. College flew by! Hard to believe I’m almost done!

Criminology is great and fascinating, though I have a quiz every 5 days so I have to stay on top of it everyday. Adolescent Psychology is also fascinating. Usually, I’d be in that class right now, but there’s a freeze here so classes were cancelled.

And Photography is fun! I love it, as y’all probably already know :) I’ve had to dab into photoshop and learn how to use that. It was pretty new to me. What I’m really looking forward to is learning how to do nighttime photography, which is coming up soon, so I’m excited :)

Speaking of photography, due to the freeze, I’ve been able to practice my photography using the icicles we experienced – which we only get to experience maybe every few years.  All the schools are closed, many workplaces are closed, government offices are closed, etc. It’s been quite a way to start off the new year!

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Our cars were frozen too:
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Those were taken during the freeze last Friday, but we experienced another one today. I have to say that I’ve loved this winter. It doesn’t usually get very cold here, so it’s been a nice cold winter :)

Holidays already over??

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Are the holidays already over?? Boy did they go by fast. I swear they go by faster every year. I’m still trying to adjust to the fact that it’s now 2014. Last year just flew by!

I hope your holidays were great, everyone! Mine were nice :) I finally got to see my family after almost 3 years. I saw my brother and sister, which was really nice (I’m adopted and they were born after that). I also saw my cousin and his baby boy and little girl, who are just the cutest things.

I spent some time with my other cousin at her house. She has 8 horses and 10 dogs!
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She has so many dogs and horses because she takes in animals that have been abused or neglected and takes care of them until she can find them a home.

Her dog Buddy is such a sweetheart. Reminds me of my boyfriend’s dog Maya, so calm and sweet.
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She also has a Great Dane named Red that’s only 7 months old, but she’s already so big!
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Here he is in comparison with a full-grown dog (not sure which breed it is, though). Took the picture at a funny time haha:
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Her horses are beautiful. I forgot this one’s name. Too many animals’ names to remember! But this one was sweet.
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Baby Bud :)
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Her horse Sunny really liked me. A horse has never taken to me like that before.
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Isn’t she beautiful? :)
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I didn’t wanna leave! I wanted to spent the rest of the day with her, but I had a lot of other family to see.

I can’t wait to go back later this year. Two and a half years is too long to go without seeing family. I really enjoyed it. I think this year’s visit was the best one yet :)

Hope all of your holidays were great as well!

Should “fat-shaming” on TV be illegal?

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I’m sure many of you have read one of the many articles published in the last 2 days about Jennifer Lawrence’s opinion of ‘fat-shaming’, so to speak. Barbara Walters interviewed Lawrence this past week and asked her opinion on the criticism people, specifically women, receive on the red carpet. Lawrence replied that it should be “illegal to call someone fat on TV.” She states that because of the media’s strong influence on young girls, and the younger generation in general, it needs to be more responsible with the way it talks about women on the red carpet.

Young girls and boys alike learn a lot from the media: how to dress, how to act, how to talk, and how to be in general. It teaches them what’s in and what’s not, what’s cool and what’s lame, what’s sexy and what’s unsexy, and so on. Lawrence is right about the media, that it needs to take more responsibility for its influence on young girls and boys. Kids, and even teens, repeat what they see and hear on TV. If they’re constantly hearing the media fat-shame people and speak so negatively about people’s bodies, they’re going to learn to do that themselves. And I think that’s a big contribution to bullying as well.

Lawrence explains that calling someone fat is a way to hurt that person, not just stating a fact – sometimes, or most of the time when it comes to the media itself, that person isn’t even fat. Lawrence has even been called fat by the media. She’s nowhere near it! She has curves and is proud of them. She refuses to change her body and become stick-thin for a movie role, and I admire her for that.

The media puts way too much pressure on young girls to be thin, and puts way too much emphasis on weight. Because the media is so influential, it should be using that influence to promote healthiness and living a healthy lifestyle, not being stick-thin. Not to mention the fact that the media is never satisfied: Women are either too fat or too skinny. They’re never “just right.” And that’s because there is no such thing as “just right.”

She’s right that if we’re regulating “cigarettes and sex and cuss words because of the effect they have on our younger generation,” then we should regulate calling people fat as well. Cigarettes kill, and hurt others around the smoker. Sex often leads to teen pregnancies and STD’s, even if the teens are careful. Cuss words are used way too often among teens and kids, (partly) because it’s used all over TV and in movies (and I’m even hearing them in commercials now). Well the media constantly calling people fat affects teens and kids too: Eating disorders. ED’s kill if they’re untreated, and sometimes even when they are treated, unfortunately. Fat-shaming has become a serious problem, and something needs to be done about it.

Now, what I don’t agree with is Lawrence saying that calling someone fat on TV should be illegal. I don’t think that will ever be illegal because fat is not a cuss word, and we do have freedom of speech. But I do agree that it should be regulated. Now how that will go about being regulated, I have no idea. But I agree with her on that.

What do you think? Should calling someone fat on TV be illegal? Or at least regulated?

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